BowAndArrowMan

Generally I am not too affectionate with partners in public. I rarely hold hands, hug, cuddle or kiss in public. In fact, I think I am far less affectionate now than when I first started having girlfriends. How affectionate are you towards partners and others in public? I'm probably most affectionate when I greet female friends. I will often greet them with a kiss on the cheek or, if close fiends, a hug. Male friends have to make do with a nod of acknowledgement and maybe a handshake from me. I think it was my background - my parents never showed me any physical affection in public or in private. And boarding school certainly didn't make me more affectionate towards others. PS. I was tempted to do a JN and make this blog post into a two-parter to make it less wordy!

On Adult FriendFinder, I penned a regular series of blog posts about my girlfriends - 16 out of 31 girlfriends were covered there. A further four girlfriends - girlfriend #8 ( https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/03/ girlfriend-8.html ), girlfriend #12 ( https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-12 ), girlfriend#23 ( https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-23.html ) and girlfriend #25 ( https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-25.html ) - have been so far covered here. Girlfriend #15 shares a first name with the three famous women shown in the photos above and below. I met girlfriend #15 while I was working at the University of Portsmouth; I was a lecturer and she was a researcher. We didn't work together but she did share an office with one of my researchers so we gradually got to know each other during my very regular visits to their office. After one visit when my researcher wasn't around, I asked girlfriend #15 whether sh...

The coital alignment technique (CAT) is a penetrative sex position designed to maximise clitoral stimulation. The CAT is a variant of the missionary sex position. This position is called the Viennese oyster by Alex Comfort and Susan Quilliam in their book,  The Joy of Sex , but it’s more commonly called grinding the corn. Less than 15 per cent of women can achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. The missionary sex position is relatively ineffective at bringing a woman to orgasm because a man’s cock gives little to no stimulation to the woman’s clitoris. The technique for coital alignment was developed by the American psychotherapist Edward Eichel. Research has found that the CAT is a very effective way to bring a woman to orgasm during penetrative sex because a woman’s clitoris is stimulated. One website -  https://www . coitalalignmenttec hnique.com  - dedicated to outlining and explaining the intricacies of this sex position, states: "The Coital Alignment Technique i...

From where I'm standing, it seems that Google has fixed the glitch. I'm now getting email notifications, after ticking 'Notify Me', of replies to my comments and subsequent comments left on other people's blog posts.

Here a 'Dear John' letter is a letter sent by one person to finish a relationship with another person. Obviously in the digital age, emails have largely replaced letters. In this case I didn't actually dump Jon, he dumped me. But why stop the facts get in the way of a good metaphor. I will enjoy writing this letter to Jon! Below is my letter to Jon Buckheit, FriendFinder Networks' chief executive officer. It's by being a paying gold member for many years of Adult FriendFinder (AFF), one of the many FriendFinder Networks' sites, through which I unfortunately got to know about Jon. __________________________________________________________________________ Dear Jon I know you'll read this letter even though I've not posted it to you - stamps are now very expensive here in Britain, and even though I've not emailed it to you - emails are just so dehumanising, don't you think? You've let it be known that you're following the people you've r...

Yesterday, while on Adult FriendFinder, I came across an incidence of online abuse. The abuse took place on flannel_light's 'What' blog post. Her blog post wondered why some men posted rude comments on her profile after she posted a topless photo of herself. She posted the photo on her blog post. On reading her post, I left a comment stating that she should be able to post whatever photos she likes on her profile. While writing my comment, I noticed an odd comment left by COWBOYSRULE2024. I thought it was an unnecessarily rude comment but I wasn't sure as I thought there may be a slight chance he was flannel_light's blogging friend trying to be funny albeit in a very blunt way. I'm not going to repeat his comment here. Having left my comment on flannel_light's blog post, I went downstairs to wash the dishes. After about an hour, I returned upstairs and switched on my computer to check the football results. After a while, I logged onto AFF and immediately not...

Below is, bar for my petition to get JN reinstated which triggered my ban from AFF, my last blog post submitted to Adult FriendFinder (AFF). Predictably, and for some arbitrary reason. it got denied. I thought I'd re-post it here as I know it won't get denied. ______________________________ ______________________________ _____________ POLITICS ON A SEX SITE! Probably most people here know that I'm a politics junkie. I was a university lecturer both teaching and researching politics. All lecturers specialise because there's no way of keeping up with all that's published in the discipline. My specialism was public policy - how governments make (or don't make) decisions - though I dabbled in political economy and comparative politics. I realise that many people, both here on this site and elsewhere, aren't into politics. Politics, a bit like religion, can be a divisive issue. Politics tends to be divisive if politics is seen only as party politics. Party politi...

I've now retrieved all my blog posts that I wanted to rescue from Adult FriendFinder (AFF). This mission was accomplished over three days. I've now got folders where my Amsterdam, climate change, Ess and Emm (a BDSM-styled cottage), Eurovision, girlfriends, Leeds United, sex clubs, sex parties, swinging and Tour de France blog posts are safely saved. Going through my blog posts - there were nearly 2,000 of them, I was pleased that I had kept an index of all my blog posts as that made retrieving my posts much easier. I probably saved about a hundred blog posts. One thing that struck me when looking at my blog posts is what a load of random rubbish I blogged about in my early blogging years. Some may say that very little has changed in my later blogging years! Having saved my blog posts now means I can be freer in what I write about now. I've got what I wanted from AFF and another ban wouldn't affect me adversely. In fact, I think I'd see another ban as a badge of hon...

On Adult FriendFinder, I penned a regular series of blog posts about my girlfriends, including two wives - 16 out of 31 were covered. A further three girlfriends - girlfriend #8 (see  https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/03/ girlfriend-8.html ), girlfriend #12 (see   https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-12 ) and girlfriend#23 (see   https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-23.html ) - have been so far covered here. Girlfriend #25 shares a first name with the three famous women shown in the photos above and below. I met girlfriend #25 when she was a postgraduate student - she was an international student from Japan. After she graduated, we started to hang out a bit together. She was keen to prolong her stay in Britain and was thinking of doing a PhD here. She sought my advice on how to apply for a PhD place here. My advice, if funding has been secured which it was in her case, to find the academic who has the most expertise in the p...

Benvenuto di Giovanni's The Resurrection , 1491: Three days after my resurrection, I thought I'd update you all about my return to Adult FriendFinder (AFF). My main reason wanting to get back onto AFF was to retrieve some blog posts before submitting a blog post to say goodbye to my friends on my terms and not on AFF's terms. Bar for a final goodbye post, I have no intention of blogging on AFF until certain major changes are made to the site. Before returning to AFF on Wednesday, I was conscious that I needed to be disciplined in my approach so as not to be sucked back into things. In my head, I mapped out a five-step approach to my return. I always like to plan things! First, I would deal with any mail received on AFF's dating side. There wasn't a lot of mail to deal with. And it was easy to deal with because as I'm now a standard member on AFF, suggesting the site has refunded by gold membership renewal on the day I got banned, I'm not able to read or repl...

Pablo Picasso's Les Demoiselles d'Avignon , 1907: I once got admonished in a work meeting saying I was an academic tart in how I go about my research. I meant tart in the sense that I'll do whatever, provided it's ethical, to promote myself. And, moreover, I was always happy to read and research outside my so-called discipline. Though I was politics, I was more than happy to read anthropology, biology, cultural studies, ecology, economics, geography, history, law, psychology, social policy, social work, sociology, and even engineering, mathematics and physics (if not too technical) for me to gain understanding. I was very cross-disciplinary, inter-disciplinary and multi-disciplinary in the way I did my research, though I must admit I never bothered with chemistry or religious studies. (I was told that that there's a difference between those disciplinaries but I never worked it out!) Do you find the tart word when used to describe people, especially women, an offensi...

When on Adult FriendFinder, I penned a regular series of blog posts about my girlfriends - 16 out of 31 were covered. Following my blog post on girlfriend #8 (see  https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/03/ girlfriend-8.html ) and girlfriend#23 (see   https://bowandarrowman. blogspot.com/2024/04/ girlfriend-23.html ), I'm going to continue this series further here. And I warn you now, this post is rather a long one even by my standards! Girlfriend #12 shares a first name with the three famous women shown in the photos above and below. I met girlfriend #12 when she worked in the administrative office in the university department I was working in as a lecturer. She was both incredibly sexy and very sassy. She often wore denim and she had frizzy hair, two big turn-ons for me. Slowly I befriended her, while flirting with her, and we went out for a drink after work a couple of times. Girlfriend #12 knew I fancied her rotten, not least because I told her. But she initially resist...

I did it. Yes, I had purple streaks put into my hair when I visited my hairdresser earlier today. Strictly speaking, they're not purple streaks, they are violet streaks. I have a few streaks at the back of my hair and on one side of my hair. It only cost me £30 (about $35). And of course I gave Giampiero, my Italian hairdresser, a ten per cent tip. During my haircut, Giampiero and I bored each other silly as we talked about our respective football teams, Inter Milan and Leeds United. I'm a little disappointed as the violet streaks don't stand out enough. Next time, I'll have more streaks put in. I'm still in shock, not by my streaks but how fast my hair is greying!